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CODEPENDENCY INVENTORY
Codependency is often normalized in high-control groups and can impact your relationships long afterward.
Count the statements below that reflect things you often think or do.
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I often prioritize other people’s needs even if I’m neglecting my own.
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I feel guilty when I have to say no to other people's requests.
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I volunteer my time even when I’m busy with other things.
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I show physical affection to others even when I’m uncomfortable.
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I give money to others even when I’m struggling financially.
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I sometimes resent other people when I'm doing favors for them.
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I often pretend I'm not hurt by other people's insensitive actions.
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I stay loyal to certain people even when they keep hurting me.
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I feel obligated to forgive people even when they keep hurting me.
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I often apologize even when I don’t think I’ve done anything wrong.
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I will ignore physical discomfort if I’m busy helping someone else.
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I try to spare my loved ones from the consequences of their actions.
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I often feel responsible for making other people feel happy or calm.
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I feel hurt when other people choose to keep things private from me.
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I feel hurt when other people don’t anticipate what I need.
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I feel guilty when I can’t anticipate what other people need.
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I notice my mood shifting to match the people around me.
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I often change my mind to match the opinions of people around me.
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I feel obligated to be the peacemaker when others are in conflict.
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I feel panicked when there’s a disagreement, even if I'm not involved.
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I often take care of people who can technically care for themselves.
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I usually get anxious when I have to do tasks on my own.
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I often worry that I’m upsetting other people without even realizing it.
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I need other people to tell me if I’m making the right decision.
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I usually don't feel confident until I've gotten reassurance from others.
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